The Spaces In Between

The spaces in between are proving their magic and healing power once again, but this time, in relationship.

To be in relationship with another is not to return to or surrender to previous ideas of what a romantic partnership should look like, but rather to navigate by intuition, allow for individual healing in wholeness, and revel in spiritual growth of all kinds. Romance is not about need or attachment anymore. All healing paths lead to this discovery. In this new spiritually evolved world, relationships are all about trust and wholeness, and contrary to what old stuck habits have been pushing and yearning towards, it is in the spaces and centered autonomy where revelations and true power arises.

While no doubt I, along with many others, have achieved secure and loving wholeness, I have discovered lately that this individual wholeness does not make one immune to encountering old and unhealing relationship habits. We have all been conditioned at some point to believe that need and attachment are romantic----that pain felt in missing, insecurity, and need for opening doors and prying communication should lead one to act. Wrecking ball energy felt heroic, but force is not heroic nor is it truly strong. It could feel strong to swap out the discomfort of uncertainty and longing for "I'm here in your space, and I'm not going away", but what personal healing wisdom would that allow for the other clearly in need of their own healing energy?

I would be a hypocrite to allow myself wholeness and personal healing, yet not trust and allow another the same. And so, the souls have been speaking this week, connecting through the too-many-words and old habits breaking down, discovering and integrating the more magical way. Once uncertainty and longing are allowed within the nourishing golden center of wholeness, rather than bypassed out of fear, the wholeness within grows stronger as does the other soul that was in need of self-healing. Isn't that what we're all for anyway? It is a tragedy of pain to fall into the belief that one can heal another through external love, but a total cleanse miracle to believe in space and witness another self-heal.

In transcending out of need and attachment patterns, a relationship grows stronger, so in actuality, the miracle blossoms beyond the individual. Old stuck ways might get attached to words and desperate in need of fixing, but the evolution is in the intuition and soul communication. Words could hurt----they could offend----but not when the golden wholeness remains strong, filtering out the excess, hearing beneath the words to the soul's desperation for space, for a chance to breathe in that higher altitude and explore the depths to heal the root of it all. When the deeper meaning and need can be heard, all is love. All is understood, as well as trusted. Love grows in the soil of deep communication, as opposed to the flakey superficial, and after the space and trust comes cleansed and open hearts. The integration is in the experience because the process itself is so rewarding. What could have been a blow-out fight becomes an evening of individual healing and soulful time, followed by a flood of love and gratitude within the relationship for trusting the newly evolved way.

The idea that relationships weaken the soul is, thankfully, becoming old universe truths. When self-healing is respected and honored in each individual, the wholeness will always remain connected and secure in autonomy. When hearts are strengthened in allowing and understanding painful emotions, rather than swapping them for something seemingly harder, a delightful power floods in----one that reminds me of the rich creative atmosphere I used to play with in my youth. I can take it. What a revelation! I can sit in that pain or uncertainty, and not only allow it, but cherish it and adore its mysterious beauty as it tingles my being's reach into everything.

The small spaces were mine and mine alone in a private, bitter-sweet kind of way, as I've witnessed in Anthony as well, but I made them huge. I touched the universe with that energy through ocean and stars, rivers and lakes, trees and sky, and I watched that endless-possibility energy grow wings. In my car, on the way to work the other day, I felt those wings again. Energetically, they unfolded and arose from the back of my shoulder blades to remind me that anything is possible----the unknown and uncertain are not something to approach timidly with fear but rather glide into with excitement and full-bodied security. And what happens when whole-hearted love guides rather than fear? What happens when the healed heart paves the way? The uncertain begins to lay out the stepping stones ahead, as if by magic, as if divinely (human), anciently (earth), and eternally (space) planned.